by Linda Hughes, our very own Mindfulness Tutor
Human nature causes many of us to dwell on the negative rather than the positive. In interviews candidates will often struggle to state their strengths, while happily reeling off their weaknesses. A friend who owns a restaurant told me that despite the 99 customers who enjoy her food, the person who complains or returns their plate of food to the kitchen is the one that sticks in her mind the most.
While self-reflection and honest feedback are helpful to improve, the constant focus of our thoughts on the negative can be emotionally draining, unproductive and lead to self-doubt and a lack of self esteem.
It is proven that gratitude is one of the most validated concepts in mindful psychology and leads to a positive affect on our mindset. Studies show that being able to recall good things that have happened to us at the end of each day can increase our mental resilience and emotional wellbeing.
So, build mental resilience by putting yourself in a position where you can find appreciation in small gestures, kind acts and the beauty of nature around you and learn to focus on these positives. This will influence positive emotions, enhance your mental wellbeing and increase your feeling of self worth.
Over the next 7 days take just 5 minutes at the end of each day to write down 3 good things that have happened to you that day. The secret is to recognise the small things that we are grateful for.
Give specific examples -instead of simply writing ‘a colleague said a nice thing about me', be more specific such as 'a friend told me how much they admired me for running for charity' or 'a colleague thanked me for helping him with his report'.
Give it a go ……. what have you got to lose
Click below to download a copy of the Gratitude Diary to print for your own use.